السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاتهHave you ever thought about why so many brothers & sisters distanced from deen?
Have you ever thought about why so many young people are being keen
to rather assimilate than integrate in Western society, instead of living in submission to Allah with fullest piety? Brothers occupying the clubs, sisters wearing very tight and short clothes,
let alone the hijaab, some selling liquor in their restaurants, others criticizing niqaab,
throwing Hollywood-like parties instead of waleemas - may Allah سبحانه و تعالى heal us.
And He is my witness: in no way this is supposed to be a judgement or a reproach.
In fact this is a tragedy in our ummah and it is our duty as Muslims to help our brothers & sisters by acting as their coach, i.e. making good effective da'wah in terms of naseeah in the kindest words & most of all being the best role models possible ان شاء الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ instead of saying things that hurt. Being the best Muslims the world has ever seen so that Allah سبحانه و تعالى may help us fix this problem, آمين.
Since I myself was born & raised in a Western country I know exactly what we all go through: It starts in a very young age when all other kids get presents on Christmas & Eastern, except for 'that Muslim kid' without any clue. 'Oh, you guys don't celebrate it, do you?' or 'You're not that modern yet, right?' are typical sentences I'm sure most of us might have heard. Still we see enough other Muslims taking part in these celebrations and we wonder why we do not act like them, for the borders are already too blurred. Now reaching puberty even makes things 'worse': some kids are being insulted and bullied for what they are, some even get cursed and nobody knows neither reason nor purpose. They just do not know that what they belong to is already perfect.
And this is the very point, they just do not know because when they grow up in a Western country and parents teach them only their cultural roots, they fail to find the straight route to a firm and steadfast personality. A personality that remains firm and steadfast, regardless of time and space, always keeping its best morality. See, 'culture' is something very unreliable, the fact of it constantly being subject to change is undeniable, it is more a manual of how to live in a certain area, and by squeezing a kid between two we create barriers which they can not overcome on their own. Thus they start to feel really alone for there is nobody who can understand how it feels to live between two entities, changing daily between two identities, trying to fit in somewhere but they just can't please both sides, since one world would always turn out as a sacrifice: Either they become part of society's 'weirdo'-layer or home country betrayers for it is nearly impossible to transfer a complete culture from one place into another one far away, it is impossible to act according to two totally different systems of morals, values, ethical laws - their personal system would be unstable, fragile and full of flaws. There would occur problems in times of decision and there would be no solution without a solid description, so what these young people really need is strength from the inside, not from the outside. A moral system which is universal, which puts life in order, no matter if public or personal. A system which remains the same under every condition, which frees you from every kind of submission to society by focussing on piety. A manual which you can take everywhere with you, which explains how to act, no matter what you go through.
Islam is this manual but still we prefer to go astray. We need to accept that we're not like others - and that it's perfectly fine this way, for what we're blessed with is something way better: guidance to strengthen us in every matter, which lays in the hearts and does not depend on the place we're at. Which we can apply to any moment in life - our best friend, our great love, our husband, our wife. The flawless, complete manual of life. So as long as you keep it inside yourself you'll always know how to behave, as long as you're strong in your faith you'll always be safe.